Hooking Up 101 |
Men tally “f*** points” on their frat-house bulletin boards. Women who sleep with “too many” men are called “houserats” or “laxtitutes” (a term of art denoting women who sleep with several guys on the lacrosse team) or are deemed “HFH,” meaning “hot for a hookup” but definitely not for anything more. The hookup culture, writes Bogle, is a “battle of the sexes” in which women want relationships and men want “no strings attached.”
So there we have it. America has unseated the Scandinavian countries for the title of Easiest Lay. We are, in the world’s estimation, a nation of prostitutes. And not even prostitutes with hearts of gold.This is nothing new, Tom Wolfe has been talking about it for years and one of the enduring themes of Mad Men has been how that the arrival of the pill in the early sixties set all of this in motion. But The Atlantic article is interesting and also depressing:
The sexual culture may be more coarse these days, but young women are more than adequately equipped to handle it, because unlike the women in earlier ages, they have more-important things on their minds, such as good grades and internships and job interviews and a financial future of their own. The most patient and thorough research about the hookup culture shows that over the long run, women benefit greatly from living in a world where they can have sexual adventure without commitment or all that much shame, and where they can enter into temporary relationships that don’t get in the way of future success.Will there be a backlash to all of this? Undoubtedly. Our biology is bigger than this myopic view of success. Smitty of The Other McCain noted something profound last week. Bob Belvedere commented on it too.
Instapundit also notes that nature has a way of responding to a vacuum. Morality does not seem so old fashioned when it butts up to reality. And they have to pay for the privilege of this brave new world. I guess this is "winning."
h/t: Ann Althouse on the Atlantic story.
Update:
This perversion of the American dream starts when they are young.
Instapundit: The rise and fall of sexual promiscuity
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